Marie Brixtofte visits Tønderhallerne

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Marie Brixtofte guests at Tønderhallerne, where she, based on her own life story and experience, will try to break the taboo around alcoholism - a topic she herself has had close to her soul. She does not suffer from alcoholism herself, but her father, Member of Parliament Peter Brixtofte, did.

For Peter Brixtofte, alcohol abuse was a huge taboo, and it was therefore not a topic that was discussed over dinner with his eldest daughter, Marie. She tried several times to get her father to realize his problem so they could get it to life, but without success. In 2016, the father killed himself.

Everyone knew who Marie's father was, and she therefore took on the role of keeping his abuse a secret. Not even the mother had to know about the problem. Therefore, Marie went with the awareness of her father's alcohol abuse to herself for many of her childhood and adolescence and just had to watch as it grew.

Marie has described her story about her father's alcohol abuse in the book "Only when it rains" (2019). Based on her own story, Marie therefore wants to help both relatives and those who are themselves affected by alcohol abuse. If we learn to talk about it, it will also be easier to fight. Marie is herself a licensed psychologist at Children, Youth & Grief, and she therefore has the absolute best conditions for speaking to those who are in the middle of a difficult period.

When what we learned as children stretches legs for us as adults

In this lecture, Marie will talk about what it was like to grow up in a dysfunctional family - with a father who drank. She will bluntly tell about all the strategies she learned as a child to get the most love and presence possible - and how the very strategies that saved her as a child have stretched legs for her through adulthood. Such strategies are called late effects - and in this lecture Marie will invite the participants to reflect on what they themselves have in their luggage.

She will talk about how we are each responsible for the luggage we have now brought with us - and how we can then start cleaning it up. Marie Brixtofte has worked as a psychologist for many years, so she knows both as a professional and as a child with baggage - how we can work with the various late effects. Marie will present her own and current models for working with, among other things, the need for control, low self-esteem, over-responsibility, sleep problems, problems with saying no, high demands on self and others, the urge to abuse, the harsh inner critic, feeling of only having oneself to trust, the chronic bad conscience, the feeling of being a passenger in one's own life, the fear of being exposed, overdeveloped sensory horns / antennae, and how we can become caring towards ourselves (self-care).

Participants said, among other things:

…Dear Marie. 1000 thanks for an incredibly exciting lecture where you very honestly told about your childhood and youth with your father. Feel like writing “Many Loving Greetings” because I think I know you so well now.
- Hanne Dannesbo

… Ihhhh Marie, for the south then, you crawl right under the skin of a ', thank you very much for a fantastic lecture, I have read your book, but now I want to read it again, now that my husband has bought it. You are really good at telling, thank you for that.
- Katharina Nielsen

… Marie is so lively a lecturer, one sits completely enchanted from the beginning of Marie's lecture until she finishes her lecture. Marie is a living narrator. Thank you very much, Marie. Your lecture is fantastic. You can hear that several times.
- Elisabeth Øllgaard

… We were quite high after your lecture and have subsequently received a lot of positive feedback. The extra good thing is that we can use your lecture as common knowledge in our conversations with the young people. It's so good. You really came through with your message. If the economy allows it, we will definitely book you again. - Heidi Birch Jakobsen, project employee, BRUS Randers

Experience Marie Brixtofte in the lecture Late sequelae, baggage and clean-up

September 23, 2021 at 19-21.30 - the last half hour is reserved for questions
The multi-hall, Tønderhallerne
For free

NOTE: Info about registration follows.